This week’s wedding prep is in full swing, and I’m feeling the intensity that always arrives during the last stretch. A week before the wedding is when everything is dialed up a notch, and my focus is on making sure the couple feels as calm and supported as possible. I’ve learned a few techniques that can really ease the pressure for them—and for me too! I thought it might be a good idea to write down what works to manage stress in this final countdown. Here’s my game plan:
1. **The Master Checklist**
I keep a clear and detailed checklist that we check off daily. It’s not just for me—it’s shared with the couple so they can see what’s left and feel reassured that we’re on top of things. Today, I ran through the final checklist with them and, seeing those last boxes almost checked off gave them some visible relief.
2. **Limit Decisions and Questions**
A week out, the couple is typically on decision overload. At this stage, I filter everything and only bring questions to them that absolutely need their input. I find it really helps to shield them from unnecessary details, which keeps them from getting overwhelmed by small, last-minute choices.
3. **Time for Themselves**
Today, I scheduled a reminder for the couple to spend some time away from wedding prep entirely. Whether it’s a date night, a long walk, or even just a quiet evening at home, having a breather helps them stay grounded. They deserve a bit of space to connect without the wedding being at the forefront of every conversation.
4. **Vendor Confirmations**
I go over final details with every vendor, confirming times, locations, and any last-minute requests. After each call or email, I note any changes and reassure the couple that everything is set. Knowing that their vendors are locked in helps the couple trust that everyone’s on the same page.
5. **Emergency Kit Ready**
I remind the couple that I’ll have an emergency kit for anything unexpected. Just knowing that everything from stain remover to snacks to backup accessories will be on hand often eases a lot of “what if” worries they might have.
6. **Focus on the Positive**
As the day gets closer, I remind the couple to focus on what they’re most excited about. For some, it’s the ceremony, for others, it’s the party, and for a few, it’s seeing all the family together. Whatever it is, I encourage them to keep thinking about that feeling when stress starts to creep in.
7. **Final Rehearsal and Run-Through**
At the rehearsal, I keep things light and make sure everyone feels comfortable with their roles. This is more than just a practice—it’s a chance for everyone to connect and feel part of the event, which helps calm any lingering nerves.
Writing this out is a good reminder that these small steps can make a world of difference. This week, my goal is to keep calm, focus on one task at a time, and remember that weddings are about love and joy. The details are important, but staying present is the best gift I can give to myself—and the couple.